I am so sick of people who can't get over their own selfish bullshit for a few minutes and be happy when things start going well for those around them. I can't stand the idiotic "well why not me?" jealousy.
The single best friend who can't be genuinely happy and supportive when a friend starts a great relationship. The friend who hears about your promotion and suddenly gets just a little pissy, tells you to get the check, and then is continually awkward about going out and spending money because you make more. Shit like this:
I get that a lot of people are competitive. I get that if you're lonely, it's sometimes hard to see couple after couple after couple. I've been there, but it's really not that hard to take a few minutes - god forbid even a few hours - to enjoy, share in, and fuel a friend's happiness. It's one of the most rewarding parts of friendship. And yet, I overhear a lot of people saying, "why can't you just be happy for me?"
Really, it's as simple as being there to see your friend happy, enjoying the fact that they are, and being supportive/stoking the fire a bit. Success deserves congratulations.
I get that a lot of people are just selfish, self-centered, and have a hard time getting out of the universe-which-totally-revolves-around-t
Happy-Relationship-Girl or Successful-Promotion-Guy is not bragging at you to make you feel inadequate. Their joy is not an attack up on your oh-so-fragile emotions and insecurities. They're happy, and with good reason. It's completely unacceptable for a friend to bring them down because they're self-centered and jealous.