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Dear Ova Dramatique,

Oh man, you pulled a jerk move by posting your 75 degree California weather on Facebook with a caption, "Brrrrr, so cold!" to tell your Minnesota friends to "quit bitching" about the weather. I called you out and you unfriended me. I guess you really showed me.

Except not, because it's a tasteless, bitchy thing to do. It's like if I took a picture of my perfectly undamaged house after yours is destroyed in an earthquake and told you to quit whining because you should know earthquakes come with the territory. Or if I took a picture of our docile late summer climate while you're mid-hurricane in Florida and told you to stop complaining about the flood damage because "you should expect that sort of thing and I don't want to hear it."

Honey, believe it or not, I don't make my facebook posts based on what you want to see and hear, and I never, ever will. Hate to break it to you, but you are not the center of the goddamn universe -- and you're being a total hypocrite.

Lest you've forgotten your life before your move to San Diego, you've bitched about it before. Don't begrudge someone else now, because I'm getting really sick of people telling me to quit complaining about the cold weather because I live in Minnesota and should be used to it by now. Here's the thing -- I am used to it, but that doesn't mean I have to like it. Oh, and the "If you don't like it, move" thing? Totally not feasible for most people right now and that's a supremely insensitive thing to say to someone who currently does not have an income and literally cannot move.

Severe cold is hard to live with. I, for one, have asthma and literally cannot breathe outside when the temperature goes below -30. Beyond that joyous little tidbit, sustained sub-zero temperatures strain furnaces and makes bills skyrocket. Cars don't start and people get in trouble with their bosses. Parents have to scramble to find day care for their kids when -35 temps close schools because it literally is not safe to be outside for more than a few minutes at a time unless you enjoy the sensation of severe frostbite. When it is so cold small mammals freeze solid while standing, I have every right to bitch about the temperature.

God damnit, it is always OK to complain about inclement weather. It's OK up north; it's OK down south. I will never ask someone in Phoenix not to gripe when the temperature gets above 100, they get heat stroke and tires start to melt. I will never tell my friends in Atlanta not to complain when snow shuts down their city and the roads they need to be on are closed. That is a perfectly justifiable thing to complain about.

If you're really going to get your hitch in a giddy-up because people are expressing their totally legitimate concerns about the weather, you're not worth being friends with in my book. It's the fucking weather. Get off your high horse.

Good riddance,

Frigid McGasperson

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starrymidnights
Jan. 21st, 2011 10:29 pm (UTC)
Agreed. I don't know why people think that just because we happen to live here that we must enjoy (or fake that we enjoy) the weather that comes with it. I hate everything about winter and don't see why it's necessary to be quiet about that, and I'm certainly not going to be silent when I wake up to -30. It's extreme weather. It's not like it'd be expected to shut up and take a blizzard.
virtuistic
Jan. 21st, 2011 10:33 pm (UTC)
Nor should you have to! The whole point of social media is sharing aspects of your life with friends. Weather affects us daily, so it's totally fair game to post about it.

God, there are even mental conditions linked to this type of weather. Seasonal Affected Disorder anyone? Months and months of white, grey, cold, and little light can and does cause depression. I would encourage all of my friends to vent about that if it helps!
greyduck
Jan. 21st, 2011 10:59 pm (UTC)
Don't you just love loathe the intersection where "self-centered" meets "holier-than-thou"?

This is a person you don't need anywhere near your life, I'm thinking.
virtuistic
Jan. 22nd, 2011 12:20 am (UTC)
I concur entirely.
brokenrecord__
Jan. 21st, 2011 11:06 pm (UTC)
As someone who lived in CA for 18 years and then decided to go to school in MN, I definitely sympathize with you; I've heard so many stupid questions and comments about MN weather from Californians. Pretty much all anyone ever says when I tell them I go to school in MN is "But it's so cold there! Why would you want to go to school there?" Like all I should base my decision of where to go to school on is the weather and not how good of a school it is or how great the Twin Cities are despite the weather (I've definitely come to really love the Twin Cities over the past few years). And I mean, as you pointed out, there are negative aspects of living anywhere; nowhere is perfect, so saying you should move because of the weather isn't perfect in MN is ridiculous because it's not as if there'd be nothing to complain about anywhere else. Also, now that I've been in MN for several years, when I'm in CA I'm not allowed to ever complain about it being cold (according to my family/friends here) because I should be used to super cold weather, even though 40 degrees does actually seem cold after being in 60-70 degree weather for a few weeks and when I'm wearing far fewer layers in 40 degree weather in CA than I do in freezing weather in MN.
virtuistic
Jan. 22nd, 2011 12:25 am (UTC)
Gahhhh, that's frustrating. :( I love the Twin Cities too. They are a great area, but Minnesota winters are a trip sometimes.

I think it's time for a new decree.

Shelby's Weather Mandate:If you're shivering/sweating balls/drenched in rain/buried in snow/uncomfortable with a temperature shift, you are allowed to say so, regardless of geographic location and its corresponding climate.
shamanix
Jan. 22nd, 2011 07:22 pm (UTC)
Jay's Weather Mandate Exception: If you willingly live in Antarctica, you're just fucking stupid. ;)

Edit: Except not really, because pretty much the only people who live there are scientists and are decidedly NOT stupid. But yeah, they don't get to complain about the cold.

Edited at 2011-01-22 07:22 pm (UTC)
virtuistic
Jan. 22nd, 2011 07:32 pm (UTC)
There is an exception to every rule, and I will happily accept this as the ONLY ONE for my mandate. :)
matt_doyle
Jan. 22nd, 2011 08:00 pm (UTC)
Have I told you lately how I love you?
virtuistic
Jan. 22nd, 2011 08:15 pm (UTC)
Not lately, but I ♥ you too!

*HUG* <-- for warmth and for glee
lucidpsyche
Jan. 23rd, 2011 07:20 am (UTC)
I only complain about it being cold in LA to make fun of myself and my low tolerance for any temperature below 65. I hope you know that. :( And that's rich of your "friend" to tell you to quit bitching about the cold in Minnesota. Minnesota is fucking cold.
virtuistic
Jan. 23rd, 2011 07:38 am (UTC)
I did not know that, but honestly, I don't have a problem with it. If you're cold, you're cold. If you feel so inclined, say so.

Oh, and yes, it is very, very cold. Like, freeze-your-face-off cold. To add insult to injury, it white-out snowed during rush hour at -5.
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